Question for Betty.

I have been on and off with my boyfriend of six years.  We have poor communication which makes us fight and then break up.  I think this time might be the last time.  I really made him mad and I don't know what to do.  I love him and when we got back together we agree to communicate better and we have, but we still messed up and I am finding myself in the same place:  lost, scared, confused, and in the position of losing my best friend and love.  What do I do?

Betty's Answer.

You may want to talk to a counselor about looking at your relationship and communication skills, either individually or with your boyfriend. A healthy relationship is based on mutual respect, involves thoughtful communication, and positive supportive interactions.

You seem stuck in an unhealthy pattern.

This pattern of on and off again relationship, with frequent fighting consumes a lot of emotional and physical energy and causes added stress in your life.

I strongly encourage you to obtain some supportive counseling. If you are an eligible UAA student, you may call the Student Health & Counseling Center to set up an intake appointment with one of the Mental Health Providers.  You may also refer to our website for further on-campus counseling options.