My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year. Every so often I get a bit irritated around her, and I end up snapping at her sometimes. She gets so upset and will barely talk to me. I care about her a lot, and I hate it when I hurt her, whether intentionally or not. I keep telling her that I'm sorry and I'll change, but I'm starting to think that she's not wanting to be with me anymore. I need advice on what to do? I really wanna change for her, and I don't wanna lose her. Any advice?
Congratulations on seeking help for an ongoing problem. You have invested time in this relationship, care for your girlfriend and do not want the relationship to end. It is important to communicate to her how you feel about your relationship. If your behavior continues, she may chose not to be in the relationship, and that is understandable. However, you can change your behavior. You can get help with dealing with your frustrations so that you do not lash out at others.
There are times in every relationship when there is conflict. It is important to communicate fairly in dealing with the issues. Tips for "fair fighting" include:
You may want to discuss dealing with these issues with a Mental Health Provider.
If you are an eligible UAA student, you may call the Student Health & Counseling Center to set up an intake appointment with one of the Mental Health Providers. You may also refer to our website for further on-campus counseling options.