Question for Betty.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years.  From the start we've been talking about marriage, our future etc.  Marriage has been on my mind for a while as he knows this and knows exactly how I feel.  He says I am someone he looks for in a wife, but isn't ready to get married. . . even when it's at its best though, marriage isn't something he wants to do.  With this pressure comes, family, and my asian culture.  They know about him, and want me to make a decision so that I'm not looked down on for being with a guy without being engaged/married.  But, I can't tell them he's not ready because it'll make him look really bad.  I think about this a lot and it's starting to affect school and work.  All I do is read relationship books, I feel like I'm going crazy.  What do I do?  Does UAA offer counseling?

Betty's Answer.

Thank you for your heartfelt question.  Not everyone has the same relationship values.  Your boyfriend seems to be honest and genuine, but this is certainly disappointing for you.  Perhaps there may be a way to sort this dilema out with some supportive counseling. If you are an eligible UAA student, you may call the Student Health & Counseling Center to set up an intake appointment with one of the Mental Health Providers.  You may also refer to our website for further on-campus counseling options.