At least one third of all reported rape victims know their attacker. He or she is a friend, spouse, classmate, casual acquaintance, etc.. Sexual Assault is a felony crime whether it is committed by a complete stranger or your best friend. Nothing you do, say, or wear gives anyone the right to assault you - sexually or otherwise.
1. Check out your date with friends- If your friends don't like your date or if a poor reputation precedes him or her, chances are that a secluded encounter may end badly. Insist on meeting at a crowded spot or with a group of friends.
2. Be prepared to find your own transportation home- Make sure your cell phone is fully charged before going out. Check your cell phone periodically for a signal. Make sure you take enough money for a taxi. Or take your own vehicle and meet your date at the planned location.
3. Clearly state your limits beforehand- Let your date know your limits and intentions early on. Open discussions by both parties can often times reduce the stress of a first date and make it more relaxed and fun.
4. Don't get drunk or stoned-Alcohol and drugs decrease your inhibitions and make you vulnerable to be taken advantage of. Highly intoxicated females have occasionally become easy victims of preplanned gang rapes by male party throwers.
5. Trust your instincts- If you think something is wrong or you feel uneasy - end the date. You can always explore the reasons for the feeling later in a safe place. Don't assume that you are wrong because there is no obvious evidence that this person is a creep.
6. Fight or Flight? The decision to fight your attacker is strictly a personal one. A lot of people have been successful in fighting armed and dangerous attackers - but most of the time these confrontations end tragically. Even if you do decide to fight - your primary goal is escape. The key is survival.
7. Call the police- Many rapes go unreported. Survivors often feel that their peers will blame them, not believe them, or their social status will be affected. Others do not want their attacker (former friend) to get in trouble or they do not want their parents knowing they are an assault survivor. All of the reasons for not reporting have merit and validity but all Survivors must also be aware that a criminal who gets away with a crime once will very likely repeat the same crime. A stand must be taken by someone in order for this sexual predator to be stopped.